Distant & Restless Inner Focus Trap
Constantly drifting off and following the thoughts about our plans for that day, worries about tomorrow, regret or concern about past events, worries about other people. Even if we’re thinking about the current situation – where we are and who we’re with – it’s very often that we’ll be thinking about what other people will think about us, how we’re going to cope with the situation, or what we should do or say.
Even though we’re going to different places, being with different people, working, talking, doing – our focus of attention can mostly be ‘in our heads’. We drift off into our heads, almost constantly. It’s just the way we are, the way human minds work. Is it helpful to us? It can be.
Sometimes, we need to work a problem through in our minds. But very often, having done so, we just keep drifting back to it, in our heads, doing that Distant & Restless Inner Focus Trap. DRIFT.
DRIFT is when we start worrying about things, following our thoughts that take us off down roads, lanes and tracks that are not helpful to us.
DRIFT is just following our thoughts, wherever they take us, drifting about with the clouds.
Imagine an untrained puppy on a long lead - that puppy would soon find itself wrapped around obstacles and tied up in a mess. Our mind can be like that when we DRIFT.
If you’re in a meeting at work, and you notice
the DRIFT, well, maybe it’s understandable that your mind will drift from time
to time, and that’s okay.
Notice the DRIFT, and bring your attention back
to what the speaker is saying, your environment, your breath – choose where to
put your focus. As your mind starts to DRIFT again, perhaps worrying about a
future situation, on today’s concern, or a regret from the past:
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