FACT or OPINION?
At stressful times, we tend to be driven by our emotions and opinions, which create a vicious cycle by fuelling each other. Our emotions strengthen our opinions, which in turn, intensify our emotions.
This leads to impulsive acts and unhelpful longer term consequences, which helps to maintain the overall problem.
Facts are what we need to focus on in order to make helpful changes. Reacting to our opinions is pointless and upsetting. Asking "is this Fact or Opinion?" helps us to pull back from our distress and defuse from the unhelpful thinking.
It is often meanings or opinions that we attach to facts that cause us the distress, rather than the fact itself.
Imagine reading a newspaper that is different to your usual one. You might look at the headlines and wonder whether they might be biased in some way. It may be he journalist or editor's opinion rather than just the facts. So we might ask ourselves whether this headline is "fact or opinion". We can do the same with our thoughts.
If we identify our thought is an opinion, then we can look at the facts - what we KNOW about the situation. Then we can make choices about what we can or cannot do.
FACT or OPINION? - video